How to explain clearly and with examples to a girl that diversity in sex is important to a manI ask for advice. My wife and I have been together for 3 years (we are a little over 30), we have a great relationship, but I do not get emotional satisfaction from sex (and physical right at the minimum level for myself, because ideally I need sex every day). At the same time, everything is relatively good in sex - sex 3-5 times a week and she rarely gets less than 2-3 orgasms (usually more), but I lack variety. What she does in sex, she does well, the problem is that she doesn\'t do much and at the same time she doesn\'t have a craving for something new. For 3 years, in addition to the bed, sex was one and a half times in the shower, a couple of times on the carpet, and perhaps that\'s all, I\'m generally silent about some unusual places. And no, she is far from frigid, she likes sex, she constantly gets orgasms, cunnilingus, squirt and anything, in terms of understanding everything related to sex, she is also more than gifted, but for some reason, as it comes to the actual case, she seems to completely disappear all creativity. She knows that sex is important to me, but in 3 years I have never received "gifts" of a sexual nature, it takes a month of persuasion and "breakfast" from her to try a new pose. She has beautiful underwear, but she doesn\'t wear it for sex about ever. To take pictures, yes, but not for sex. I discussed the problem with her more than once and literally put it on the shelves with examples - the effect was about zero. The last time I said that I was ready to prove the validity of claims from any adequate sexologist - she jokes that I was spoiled during my trips to prostitutes, although in fact I never told her that there was anything better with them. At the moment, I\'m trying to find a way to diversify our sex life without having to chew out all the options on her part on my own. Sending her to "watch porn to learn something there" will not work, specific options are needed. I tried, for example, to find all sorts of erotic games like forfeits, but I came across only dull options "for beginners".

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How to explain clearly and with examples to a girl that diversity in sex is important to a man
I ask for advice. My wife and I have been together for 3 years (we are a little over 30), we have a great relationship, but I do not get emotional satisfaction from sex (and physical right at the minimum level for myself, because ideally I need sex every day). At the same time, everything is relatively good in sex - sex 3-5 times a week and she rarely gets less than 2-3 orgasms (usually more), but I lack variety. What she does in sex, she does well, the problem is that she doesn't do much and at the same time she doesn't have a craving for something new. For 3 years, in addition to the bed, sex was one and a half times in the shower, a couple of times on the carpet, and perhaps that's all, I'm generally silent about some unusual places. And no, she is far from frigid, she likes sex, she constantly gets orgasms, cunnilingus, squirt and anything, in terms of understanding everything related to sex, she is also more than gifted, but for some reason, as it comes to the actual case, she seems to completely disappear all creativity. She knows that sex is important to me, but in 3 years I have never received "gifts" of a sexual nature, it takes a month of persuasion and "breakfast" from her to try a new pose. She has beautiful underwear, but she doesn't wear it for sex about ever. To take pictures, yes, but not for sex. I discussed the problem with her more than once and literally put it on the shelves with examples - the effect was about zero. The last time I said that I was ready to prove the validity of claims from any adequate sexologist - she jokes that I was spoiled during my trips to prostitutes, although in fact I never told her that there was anything better with them.

At the moment, I'm trying to find a way to diversify our sex life without having to chew out all the options on her part on my own. Sending her to "watch porn to learn something there" will not work, specific options are needed. I tried, for example, to find all sorts of erotic games like forfeits, but I came across only dull options "for beginners".

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Lisockaya

16mo. ago

You don't have any wife or girlfriend, saline. Only left and right 🤣👍

Ellie Nora🇺🇸

16mo. ago

(And a small addition because not all the text fit into the first post) Abstractly sending her to a sex shop so that she finds "something" there will not work. She will say "yes, yes", but in the end she will not come down / will not buy / will not buy and will not use (there are a couple of strays that her hands never reached, and the vibrator is used exclusively in the "soldier" pose). Ideally, you need a straight list (article, book) from the 1001 series of specific ways to please a man sexually - suddenly someone came across something like this. If you slip it to her, it might be useful Maybe someone knows a good YouTube channel on this topic (doubtful, but suddenly) - it could work with her too. In general, I will be grateful for any advice / tips.

Maria

16mo. ago

The author! If your wife was interested in pleasing you, she would have read not a single article and bought not a single set of erotic underwear! She just doesn't have to try! Cool your ardor! You just got her already! She doesn't need so much sex - you are predictable! You should be "stuck" in the shower with your phone, be late home from work... put the phone on lockdown.. Let him get nervous))) and then all your dreams will come true!

Lisockaya

16mo. ago

And what makes you think that I think? I never forced her to do anything she didn't want to do, on the contrary, there were things that she said "it's a pity that she didn't try it before." The problem is precisely to give her a guideline to try something new together, but so that I am not the only one who takes the initiative. If you don't like it, you don't have to, but you have to try.

Kets_mammy

16mo. ago

He writes like that, as if sex once a month from under a stick, in the dark under a blanket and in the same position. There's only one thing that comes to mind: I'm overeager!

Kets_mammy

16mo. ago

Wiring. Men don't talk like that. On the contrary, let everything be stable and nothing changes.

Kets_mammy

16mo. ago

An unrepentant girl will never contact someone like the Author, he knew this, he spun cobwebs, she did not break up, He likes it perverts It is customary to marry an unrepentant Couple To the Author, an emancipated pervert marries her in the end

Lisockaya

16mo. ago

It feels like the author himself finished 5 times while writing his text. Well, that's how I diversified my sexual life))

Ellie Nora🇺🇸

16mo. ago

A woman gets bored with a man, just as you get bored with the same type of sex. And at the beginning of the relationship, but I would have arranged for you. And you demand more varied sex, forgetting that your wife does not want to, because she is bored with you too. It's like a fat wife will demand more money than when she was well-groomed and thin. To get a variety of sex from your wife, you need to act through a woman's feelings and emotions: seduce her, flirt, make her a little jealous, communicate more often, be closer, relax together, bring back moments of the past and a playful mood. And not to demand, like a kid: "Give, give!". You think like men with your porn instructions, women are not interested in this. While the wife is joking, then her disgust will grow. I've been married for 10 years. No one owes anyone in marriage: neither sex, nor money, nor even fidelity, a partner must be constantly held and sought, a priori he does not owe anything if he does not want to. In fact, marriage is only the joint management of finances (property), everything else is voluntary and by agreement.

Maria

16mo. ago

The problem that most women start moving only when their husbands start looking to the left is known, but still I want to solve problems before it appears. For the same reason, I do not buy flowers for her on holidays or as an apology, but "just like that." She doesn't love you, how do you live in general, you are disgusting to girls